Sentenced to Eternal Singledom
12 Apr
Some people tell me I have nothing to complain about. “Sounds like you go on plenty of dates,” they say. Or, “you always seem to have one boy or another interested in you.” Not true. The truth is that it’s easier to find a monkey in a ballerina costume than a good man on campus. And dates really don’t come by as often as I’d like to think. Do you know how hard it is for someone as awkward and un-feminine as me to be asked out? Especially by someone who I might remotely be interested in?
I don’t understand it, really. All the good guys are always taken. And I have been waiting patiently in the wings, but it’s never my turn. They go from taken to single to taken again in a span of a few days, and honestly, how quickly do they expect me to swoop in? Plus, I vowed I’d never go for a taken man, so I usually don’t get my foot in the door until after I find out he’s single, at which point, he promptly enters into another relationship with some girl who flirted shamelessly with him when he had still been in a relationship.
Add that to the fact that I’m hopelessly attracted to the shyest of boys, and I have a fail-proof recipe for eternal Singledom.
Maybe you guys are right. I should stop worrying about it. The moment I do, someone will pop up.
And then I’ll start wondering if he’s my One and Only.
And then he won’t call or do some other classic guy thing.
And then I’ll start abusing my self-esteem again.
Vicious, vicious cycle.
I wasn’t always like this, you know. Well, I used to be happily in love, but even aside from that. I didn’t use to display such classic flaws of womanhood. I thought Bridget Jones’ problems were unique and funny, and I’d laugh and laugh and laugh.
Now that I’m dating, I realize – those problems are universal to all women, as common as getting a period. I’m not laughing anymore.
It’s ok, I’ve got a back-up plan. My dog loves me. She (!) can be my boyfriend. I know she’ll adore me wholly for the entirety of her life.
honestly,, are there still good guys to be found?? I believe that these are the problems for many single person. I have to say I include myself to that.. We are always looking for something to be seen by our naked eyes for us to like.. we always do not see those who wants to be with us because we are wanting others as well, that’s the consequences of being picky.. I learned that I’ll never be happy because I have a specific thing that I want, still, patience is a virtue
but hey, if you need a good guy, check out some provincial culture or those places with no much adaptation to the urban life.. I’m sure you’re in an urban place because you can access the net.. Guys turn bad because of influence.. so search for those who are less expose to the real aspect of great life, live it simple.. that is if you can live with it…
(E-mail will come after tonight so I can include my date. =)
I love your sub-heading! “Please excuse my retardation, I was born this way.” Whenever I space out and miss a whole conversation, spill things or have urges to go skipping I feel this way. It’s good to know there are others! lol
It’s scarily easy to beat yourself up whenever ANOTHER guy doesn’t show interest or blows you off or just is a sleezeball you don’t need to be around. But you really can’t go through life that way, miserable, I guess I just make myself believe that since I’m not asking for a lot, if I am patient I’ll get it. I’m 1000% the same way…anytime a guy shows interest in me for a few minutes I wonder how it would sound if I took his last name, lol. We just have a lot of love we want to give, I guess.
Might want to check the whole dog-boyfriend thing out before you commit to it. With the exception of Arkansas, I think that’s illegal everywhere. ;-)
Why don’t you approach shy boys and ask them out instead of waiting for them to get moving?
aahh, life was so much easier when we were little. Only worries in life was studying for that hard spelling test, if so and so was still going to be your best friend after she finds out you hung out with a kid she didn’t like and taking naps!
I would worry about finding that special someone, but I eventually learned to sit back and BE PATIENT (has difficult as that is sometimes), because he would find me. Good luck and smile!
It’s true what they say: all the good men are either taken or gay.
Even though I haven’t actually set foot in the whole dating world, I’ve already decided to give up. Singleton forever! Unfortunately my friends are all starting to pair off you know what this means don’t you – smug married dinner party. :(
Oh my gosh. Laura, do NOT bring up the whole smug married dinner parties thing. I already told my high school friends that they are not – NOT – allowed to bring any spouses to our reunion dinners. Otherwise I will simply have to… do something outrageous which I have not thought of yet! But, you know! *points finger threateningly*